Why is This a Game?

      I will be completely honest I have never really been good at relationships or even really been in one. I have just never really found anyone worth my time I guess. But something I have noticed about relationships is that there are phases with so many unspoken rules and steps.
      You have the "chasing" phase where someone decides that they like someone and they go after them until they either win out or they don't so they give up and move on. This phase is the most annoying in my opinion. Because it never works out for me the way it does for other people. For the average person they will decide they like someone. Then they will start hanging out with that person and most of the time they win.
     This phase is like a game of chess you have to make strategic moves to win over your opponent. You make a move then you have to wait for them to make their move. It is like a game and a dance all in one and completely ridiculous if you ask me. All this flirting and strategic thinking is mentally excruciating and exhausting. I would rather know straight up what is going on. You interested? Okay. I don't like this guessing game. I  just want to know if I am wasting my time here or not. But unfortunately this is not how it works. It normally turns in to being a little bit of a game.
        The next phase is the "getting to know you" phase. You both clearly like each other and are interested in maybe starting a relationship. You start hanging out and getting to know each other better. You go do things together, and hang out with each other's friends. This stage can be real fun! Some people move through this phase quickly others stay there awhile because there is no real rush to start dating. Either way this phase usually leads into the dating phase.
       Dating looks different for many different couples. But there is a balance that needs to be achieved between spending time together getting to know each other better and being independent and having their own lives and friends. Dating is supposed to be a fun experience. It is a beautiful thing. It should be easy and carefree. If you find the right person it should come naturally and you should want to do anything you can to make the other person happy, not trying to get something out of it for you.  This is where a lot of people go wrong and they end up getting hurt. I just can't wait till I find this for myself.